I was recently interviewed by Kaitlin Ahern with Everyday Health for an upcoming story Stress-Busting Strategies Psychologists Use When They Feel Overwhelmed, so be on the lookout for the article once it's published (I'll add the link here once it's available). In the meantime, here are my thoughts regarding this important issue.
Between constant breaking news, political debates filling our feeds, and the everyday pressure of managing careers, households, and family obligations, it’s no wonder so many of us feel like we’re running on empty. If you’ve ever been on a work call while mentally calculating whether you’ll make it to your child’s soccer game on time, you know the mental tug-of-war that fuels overwhelm.
But overwhelm isn’t just emotional. It’s biological. When stress builds, deep brain structures, like the amygdala (our alarm system) and the locus coeruleus (which heightens alertness), go into overdrive. This floods the body with cortisol and adrenaline. In small bursts, that’s useful as it sharpens focus and primes us for action. But when stress becomes chronic, it starts wearing down the hippocampus, a structure critical for memory and learning. Over time, stress can dysregulate sleep, weaken immunity, and even reduce brain volume.
The takeaway? If we don’t interrupt this cycle, stress hijacks both body and mind.
Here’s where the science gets hopeful. The brain is remarkably adaptable thanks to neuroplasticity; its ability to rewire and strengthen pathways in response to repeated experiences. One key player is BDNF (brain-derived neurotrophic factor), sometimes called “fertilizer for the brain.” BDNF supports neuron survival, encourages new connections, and protects against the harmful effects of chronic stress.
Movement, mindfulness, and even short stress-relief practices boost BDNF, which means the small things you do daily to manage stress don’t just feel good...they literally help your brain grow stronger and more resilient.
When overwhelm hits, here are science-backed strategies you can try right away:
Write down the swirl of thoughts in your head. Offloading them onto paper frees up working memory and makes problems feel more manageable.
A 10-minute walk outdoors is enough to shift your physiology, increase BDNF, and reset your prefrontal cortex (the part of the brain that helps with focus and decision-making).
Try the “5-4-3-2-1” method: name five things you see, four you touch, three you hear, two you smell, and one you taste. It’s a fast way to bring the nervous system back into the present.
Multitasking isn’t real - your brain is simply switching between tasks, burning energy and increasing fatigue. Instead, work in focused 20–25 minute blocks, followed by a short break.
Protect your bandwidth by being specific: instead of “I can’t,” say “I can revisit this Friday.” And remember: delegating isn’t shirking responsibility; it’s redistributing effort so your brain can focus on what matters most.
Box breathing: Inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 4, hold 4 (repeat four rounds). This signals safety to your nervous system.
Progressive muscle relaxation: Tense and release muscle groups to reduce stored physical tension.
Reserve 15 minutes in the evening to write down your worries. During the day, remind yourself: “I’ll save that for worry time.” This prevents rumination from dominating your mental space.
Take two minutes to stretch, step outside for sunlight, or jot down a gratitude note. These small resets add up and help train your brain to rebound faster.
Overwhelm is inevitable in today’s world, but it doesn’t have to control you. By leaning into tools that boost BDNF and harness neuroplasticity, you can train your brain to respond to stress more effectively over time. The more you practice, the more resilient your nervous system becomes.
If you want to dive deeper, my Stress and the Brain course explains exactly how stress impacts brain circuits and provides practical strategies to rewire your response. And for professionals—coaches, therapists, wellness leaders, or business owners—who want to integrate neuroscience into their work, our Certification in Cognitive and Behavioral Neuroscience takes your expertise to the next level.
Stress is part of being human. But when you understand how your brain works—and practice small, science-backed habits—you’re no longer at the mercy of overwhelm. Instead, you build clarity, presence, and resilience in the middle of life’s chaos.
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Dr. Hayley Nelson earned her PhD in Psychological and Brain Sciences from The Johns Hopkins University, is a tenured professor of Psychology in the Philadelphia area, and is an international speaker. She has over 20 years of teaching experience with students from diverse backgrounds, has several peer-reviewed research publications and previous research and faculty appointments with The National Institutes of Health, The Johns Hopkins University, and The University of Pennsylvania.
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